Aspects of campus love

 Butterfly Lovers to meet the time if for now, this is a college bar. Ancients early poetry sigh, Love is life, not missing a lesson.
love is real life and the eternal theme of literary and artistic works.
higher level of culture, the more the rich emotional experience for college students, the campus of their university life in love important scene, the experience is that they love to experience an essential lesson of life. Many of them, in a few hard to find in university life, or end-nil, or miss and love; another part of the people, lucky to find a future partner for life, from off together; still others, after several sea, West Side campus and become cynical game of life. A university is a social arena, above a wide variety of characters, the interpretation of the bizarre story. Looking back on two decades of China's reform and opening up the mentality of college students can find their emotions as rich and complex world.
Campus Love: From Prohibition to the early acquiescence
80, the University Student Handbook Students not allowed to fall in love almost all of the provisions. from the beginning, this provision has never been to abide by. the pair of young students on campus is always moving landscape. then the question for college students love the media also organized several discussion focused on college students should not be in love, should establish what kind of life, etc., and today is a very simple look really naive question. and to the 90's, and even high school students are not uncommon in love, let alone students, Universities have long been in love by acquiescence, social acceptance, as encouraged by friends and family. the media and social concerns have also been related to love, such as polygonal, such as premarital sex and the deeper moral question.
In fact, one university to naturally into the love stage. On the one hand, college students high school through a tense and stressful learning sprint entrance into the university wants to relax. At this point they have to the physical development of late repressed and hidden for a long time love of the opposite sex naturally desire to emerge. On the other hand, the relative freedom of college boarding-school life, parents and teachers can get rid of the dual constraints, created the conditions for love. a university student , a people from their homes to college, away from his family, leaving those of us outside, not in how to find a friend too ah.
few years ago, Beijing university campus circulating a song , where they sing: When the dinner. Principal Secretary to inspect and education we have to establish proletarian life hh students in each department to facilitate expansion of exchanges, deepen mutual understanding and a wide selection of future partners is the best time. out of school, living in the unit circle to focus on one place, people who know the limited choice is very small. campus had doggerel female students said, After graduating from the girl not have a boyfriend, but someone else pick the rest. In view of this, an Associate Head of the Department of Philosophy, we do not prohibit students fall in love, for fear they could not find the object after the graduation.
Campus Love: Love is the bottom search
the most difficult issues in life.
one of the boys in the Tsinghua Tsinghua site s feelings: ah! change of heart then?
general, the first fall in love into a group of university students are high school students to their lovers, in the hazy middle school planted the seeds germinate at the university. But this time love rarely fruit. At this time students are not mature in all aspects of love, life, understanding is limited, do not know what kind of person. to the junior and senior stages of their broad perspective, and contact with many people , the physically and mentally more mature, and love of the standards have changed. often and former lovers break up, and start a new search. to graduate, or after work, objects are stable, before taking into account the problem of getting married . a bachelor degree or higher, young people, at the undergraduate and graduate level is about twice the normal love. many students have three or four of the love experience.
two decades of reform and opening up the concept of people took place great changes, was a new trend of university students is even more avant-garde ideas. and the moral values of traditional Chinese society than the college students on love, marriage has its own independent views. they love, they generally believe in a foreign philosophers, picked. then he went forward, he saw the hands of each strain that a wheat than the bigger, better, he can only leave the endless regret. another person walks into Medina after see Zhu Zhu is full of wheat are great, he look Seomang East, nostalgia from unconsciously quickly out of the wheat, and quickly casually picked a small wheat. the third person to go fast in the Medina half, chose a relatively large ears of corn off, after perhaps a bigger ears of corn. may not, for him, the hands of the wheat is the best. in the selection process of the object college students want to pick the best wheat.
a university journalism department, a girl, the university students will soon see a lot of couples around, feeling very popular with stimulation to a year in the same class next semester to a boys to take the initiative, the two soon fell in love. Soon they graduated to form small family. woman soon found that the boys from chores, to ambition, she was very busy understanding. When she interviews all the way back, exhausted and still busy cooking, but only knew the man sitting on the sofa to watch the game. many nagging invalid because man is essentially a self-centered who used to be concern was the care, lack of caring for others. Leibing the female students so many times. Later in the class reunion, she said, relenting, if come again, she must find a number of older, in particular, tolerance, men in particular will be considerate husband. the students, saying that she is too swift to pick only the smallest of the intelligent girls, ugly girls Tsinghua University, Beijing Foreign girls beautiful girls tender Normal. everywhere capture. dormitory at night to exchange favor of the pursuit by many people. Beida, a charming girl more than a dozen suitors, she provides only male friends to each half-hour talk time. Tsinghua University girl has to get in a girl on the Internet issued a letter, said he might not beautiful, but self-confident self-love, but also know how to love. The letter has won many plaudits. college students even use the Internet to publish quasi-GF (Girlfriend) reported to me yesterday, Taipei Medical girls more than boys and less, so MM (sister) who are depressed mood, often mentally unbalanced, it is easy to hook (implying that she is so only on the My pirate ship.) is in dire straits in order to save the North Medical MM, the majority of men and bare backs were straightened, and boldly go for it! bad, women do not love! 2. Do not unrequited love! good, which in turn full circle, re-discovered the wheat growing on. In order to find true love, college students often have to never mind the pain
a significant number of college or pass with love or lost love. Love is two hearts, , I love the people I do not like it. an economic system that troubled boys, love is the heart of the two fire two people, but when two fire can burn a piece of it? a boy in a school of law and high school sweetheart two years after breaking silence, senior year, he finally met a student in the activities of the Department of Oriental Studies, a girl, she was elegant and refined, smart and lovely, so he was very cordial. He then launched an offensive to Although the girl to play with him, watching movies, but appears to lack enthusiasm. six months after intercourse, the girl will not agree and he continued to travel. boy was in a hurry and said to her, continuously flowing river of life in the past, opportunities lost was to find and not come back, trying to impress her. but useless, no duty-bound to a girl away from him. The boys puzzled, feel and handsome and intelligent, how could the girl do not love yourself? In fact, the girl did not like chic, her pursuit of stable and reliable. boys under sad after graduation went to Hainan, said that nothing in the north nostalgia thing.
this story, it happens often. As each person's family background different hobbies, different taste, different life goals, met people who do not know each other, knowing each other people who do not love, love people who do not permanently. SMTH BBS, a men's website describes the painful breakup with his girlfriend Process:
college for various reasons we have not determined to test GT, then she graduate, and I busted their ass and left Beijing. her strong personality is better, I understand, when it is precisely because of her arrogance caught my eye. look at her total not willing to support her a try. I know the examination is the first step to go abroad, if she will go out, there will be some problems between us.
I gave her two choices: one not chosen her, but said I'm selfish, let her go this year, she wanted to pin down. I thought she understood me, but I end up in her mind is so bad. I do not mind if she was first out, but mind and emotional balance in abroad, she, as the The latter as worthless hh a walk on campus alone, feeling very depressed. lovers break up soon boys and girls excited, then the hearts of the boys confided the secret. two quickly bathing in love with reading, walking together, prompting the envy of everyone, recognized They make a perfect pair. Unexpectedly, a bolt, a senior year student in love with the southern U.S. girl to her quarters to see her every day. boys one day and the American students in the dormitory in the negotiations, finally no match for his love, . For them, the love is just a springboard towards the other side; and the infatuation of the people, love is pain in their hearts forever.
sex: body and soul with
college students to the physical development has been mature age, is more mature psychologically. In the course of love, sexual needs are quite natural, most of them want to have a unified body and soul love. A survey showed that most college students that premarital sexual relations understanding. Wuhan, a radio station's sex and sexual troubles such as depression. in the ethos of the university more open, scenic woods, lakes and grasslands, have become the rendezvous place for college students, and even a few of the boys and girls dormitory curtains were in the same places, the not mutually interfere in the situation. into 90 years, college students living together off campus lovers open the phenomenon of more and more.
BBS Tsinghua site dialogue, a typical reflection of the contemporary college students about sex. a girl posted online an article entitled read a magazine before, the above article I have left a deep impression, it tells the story of a pair of lovers through an experience of no trees: late at night, the forest silence, the young man to kiss Her girlfriend, but was rejected. However, the refusal of the show modesty, have made it more difficult for upright young man. So he indecent assault, and he saw the girl inside collar jade breasts, hands stretched out in the past. escort girl suddenly his arms, extremely shy young man suddenly angry.
said softly: l said to my mother's chest of gold girl, she touched turned into money men, touching their copper and iron becomes her. Is like a person is not necessarily picking up her gold? r < br> share self-made guy.
of a large rock, feeling the evening before the share of unique beauty.
arms. In his large warm arms, tired stumbled a short while I fell asleep. vague, feel his hands trembling, opened his eyes, her boyfriend's hand. I can not see him the night deep face, one could hear his breathing getting faster, thicker. I suddenly realized that going to happen, I tense up, an instinctive guard against so I clung to her boyfriend's hand, I gently said to him I tell a story to you all right? Then I told the magazine, told the story of two lovers. a long while, her boyfriend let go, Hold me tighter in silence hh night, windy large, the stars winked tirelessly, until the sun rising.
letter, the letter specifically mentioned that night. He told me that if I told you before feeling like you just stay in character and sweet, pleasant smile, then went through that night, I tell you more a little respect, I respect your pure self-love, fate brought me to thank you, you gave me tenderness at the same time taught me life. thanks that night, is that it taught me to understand, urging me to mature.
gold r l a woman who must be able to pay enough of a love and responsibility of men. Road:
still infatuated with it? Yinke not the same as writing is fallen in love. really fallen in love, who do not have installed in the Tsinghua serious. to determine the physical and mental things, Freud and Marx are the normal things, not big that instead. I do not want to say You are frigid, but I believe that 90% of girls like you are frigid. love him? If you love him why he still refused? If you do not love him why and he with? dedicated to the person you love? do not understand. So you pay admission, and his boyfriend is the fun? I would think that it will not be necessary. are what year, if you really love him then, and give gold, lost their lives then why not? equality of men and women already, do not abandon the traditional concept of chastity and hold to do. br> while the fourth student said:
problem because China is still a closely guarded secret society, adolescence is also a lack of education, most students are still the concept of modern, conservative act. So sex and sexual frustrations are still often plagued them. a college student, said around us the air was so nervous, all of them look at this issue with a sense of guilt, there is no room for discussion, so we can not find the solution to the problem. the other a female undergraduate student the opportunity to take advantage of the weekend home and roommates living with her boyfriend, inner tension, the students have strange eyes and around the pressure always makes her feel a crime. Therefore, the men and women as mere ignorance, can not be completely like the West 60s, as the pursuit of sexual freedom with impunity, they can only hard suffering in the cracks For some students love the campus, it was just an arbitrary emotional catharsis, or worth of chips, hand tools and a game.
college students from different classes and regions have different dreams and aspirations. Many of them go to college to get a change of identity of the chips, they want this life on college campuses around the activities of another battlefield for their own future to Pave the Way.
Department of Chinese at a university to a girl from a small town in remote areas, and his mother to tell her that, like us, the family had, in addition to their beauty, and nothing else to rely on. admitted to the university, the mother asked her to correct their own but also the beauty and conditions of university students as soon as possible for yourself money and the identity of her husband. Her mother, a young local beauty, married to the town party committees, so that his life had to rely on. The girls follow the teachings of his mother, starting from the university classes do not often, but participated in many activities, especially in gathering and foreign students. Finally a Japanese female student and made friends, and understand the female student's brother, a Japanese trading company in China Office wealthy businessman. college graduation she married the businessman, less than 23 years old gave birth to a son of Japanese. each with a class reunion, she is very satisfied and happy, she sought to achieve things the.
campus atmosphere is very relaxed, there is little individual acts of restraint. College students to pursue individual freedom, pay attention to respect for personal privacy of other people's love and sex life are not intervene. a small number of boys and girls, by a convenient constantly playing the game of love. Some boys find girls, but a temporary emotional vent, fresh after a couple pulls. Some girl was hurt, went to wounding. even a small number of female dancers to do, wealthy a game a dream.
the other hand, is also volatile life of college students, distribution, employment is still unknown, even love, is likely to far apart after graduation, so students are have. written as: campus every day, performing a scene by love tragicomedy. Feng property is still here, people often new, and much the same story. After a variety of campus life and the complex emotional experience, students have grown up and matured. When the post-graduation into society at the same time, you will wake up from the dream of love, become reality, had played an extraordinary day. their hearts are still reluctant to college years, because of youth and love are best left at that time, but they know, graduation working, living from the gorgeous attributed to plain, then, is really nothing exciting.
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